Ever get that feeling that from the moment you open your eyes when you wake to the moment that you finally close them to go to sleep that there has not been enough hours, minutes and seconds to get everything done that you planned to do?
When we experience feeling of being too busy, needing to feel busy, or even needing to feel to be seen to be busy. What are we looking to achieve? Could we be searching for a sense of self-worth, or to validate our usefulness, maybe in some way justify our place in society. Do we feel there is less chance of feeling judged by others if we can justify how we have used up every second of our time, sacrificed lunch because there was no time to spare to eat, or eaten lunch on the go. How often can we feel obliged to give our time to others over giving it to ourselves, while convincing ourselves that it is ok to operate in this way and follow a path that could well lead to self-destruction of our mental health and well-being.
So what is self-care? I googled this with the intention of adding a simple checklist but I found the amount of information a little overwhelming. I considered whether there was some way that I could simplify what I found and what came through for me was that I would consider self-care as any time that I give to myself without it being impacted by others expectations. I work hard at giving myself one hour of self-care a day, this can come in the form of yoga, walking or just consciously being aware of being in the moment with myself. It took me a while to become comfortable with accepting my own value and worth along with a feeling of being selfish. Allowing myself to enjoy my own time has also enabled me to enjoy the experiences I get from it, feeling a new connection to nature and its natural beauty has encouraged me to open my eyes to what is around me and absorb the sense of calm that it brings to my being. I also find being out with nature a great reminder that despite whatever we may be experiencing in our lives, time still keeps moving forward and whilst it may feel painful at times to look back we can always choose how we move forward.
Choosing to enter into counselling can be a difficult decision to make. Consciously choosing to explore difficult experiences, both past and present, can seem an overwhelming concept. Moving away from self-destruct to practicing self-care through counselling could give a greater ability to positively handle life's challenges through experiencing improvements in emotional well-being. This could result in a building of resilience and create a more fulfilling life going forward.
Our future is in our hands.